dating for 5 years and no commitment
A lot of new couples come to me because they are unsure of where to begin. I am not a fan of talking about or asking questions about sex (or anything else for that matter) until you and your significant other (or whatever gender you are) are comfortable with that. I see it as an opportunity to test out your boundaries.
Dating for 5 years is a big ask, especially as it’s a long-term commitment. The idea of a long-term commitment feels like a pretty intimidating question to some people. You say you are going to be with your long-term girlfriend for the next 5 years, and you expect to have sex with her for 5 years, too. This is a hard question to answer, because we are not sure, but it is an issue that many people ask a number of times.
Not to mention, a lot of people don’t end up with the long-term girlfriend they want to keep. The only way to know for sure is to actually see the person. So many people have been in relationships that just never ended, because the person was afraid to show up.
Many people who have been in long-term relationships have had one or two break-ups. However, the majority of these break-ups are because of the relationship not being workable. To be really honest, the majority of break-ups happen because of our own insecurities and lack of commitment. We don’t want to be with someone who we don’t want to be with. This is why, for example, our first-ever break-up with our girlfriend was really bad.
I know what you’re thinking. “Yeah, but what about all the guys that you haven’t been in a long time?” Well, the problem here is that you’re trying to make a relationship sound like something you would have as your very first date. Its not. Everyone wants a commitment.
I know what youre thinking. I know that a lot of guys will say that to my face and say, “You don’t want to be with me.” Well, let me be clear: I do want to be with you. I want to be with you for the rest of my life. But I dont want to do anything about it until I know you’re not going to have a girlfriend for the rest of your life.
I would just like to point out that the guy who wrote this blog entry is a guy who is currently dating. His girlfriend is a girl he met through his blog. If you know anything about him, you would know that he doesnt really date.
I am not going to comment on the guy’s decision to date so long, but I will say that I am not a fan of long distance relationships. You might be surprised how much it can affect your life in the long run.
I’ve dated for a long time. I’ve dated for over 5 years. I’ve been in a couple of relationships that lasted 3 years or longer. I definitely know that commitment might not always be a good thing, but I’m not a fan of long distance relationships either. The reality is that if you’re in a relationship, you’re probably not going to be 100% committed to it.